How the fuck is there a statute of limitations for rape in New York?

[LadyForCamus]

If we assign the word rape outside of a court room then that effectively removes all presumption of innocence to any alleged attacker.
why? because rape is a legal term that describes a criminal act. IF the act of Rape is not prosecution then by the legal defination it ceases to be a criminal act. yet we still have a victim.

I understand you are looking from the victim's prespective and to you when someone says they are raped you put your self in that position and take the mantle of the victim onto yourself. Meaning you would not claim to be raped unless you were. therefore you assume than when someone says they are raped, they are raped.

Got it.

Thank you. I appreciate you acknowledging that you understand which point of view I am coming from. I also understand your point that legally speaking, this alleged ACT will not be recognized as a "rape" in any court of law if it is never reported, and/or prosecuted.

But, what I am saying is, doesn't any TRUE victim have the right to declare privately, to themselves, "I was raped"? Why do you want to rob that word of its power and meaning for the victim so badly?

Now I am asking you to suspend that for a moment and put someone like EP or some poor guy who's thing is to play rape with his GF. Now ask yourself what if a girl like that (who likes to play raped) isn't.. exactly stable. and they break up.. All is quite until 4 or maybe 10 years later. then she decides they were not play raping one another when she finds out EP is married with kids and has a new house (everything she wanted with him)

Now, we take the word rape out of a courtroom and apply it here, then all due process/All justice (by the truest defination of the word) is gone. especially if she taped one of those play rape sessions.

Well, that would be...a rape allegation...like you've already said. (a false one in your scenario which is - as it SHOULD be - punishable by law). As in...we have an alleged victim AND an alleged offender. The two are not mutually exclusive.

You can still allow that word personal meaning to actual victims without "taking it out of the court room", or stripping away due process, as you say. You seem to think it has to be one or the other?

All people would judge is what they saw and plug it into a narritive (like you good people did with me and my selection of words in this thread without thinking.) Then no matter what EP is screwed.

Horse crap! If the event was reported as a rape, then an investigation would ensue, a DA would decide if there is enough evidence to go forward with formal charges, and the accused would get a fair trial. There is your due process! What are you complaining about? And, "poor EP"? Now, now, let's not encourage that victim mentality. [emoji57]

which brings us to a broader application of the law. What if.. by accusation alone we are convicted of a crime, then must prove our innocence (as a legitmate means of 'protecting our victims?') Rather than the presumption of innocence we have now? (All are innocent until proven guilty.) For one arrests would not be so...

Ofc, that would be a TERRIBLE idea, and I don't think anyone here was suggesting such a thing. What I have been advocating for this entire time is granting the word "rape" its personal meaning to actual victims as a way of privately legitimizing the terrible thing that happened to them so that they may begin to move forward. That's all. Do you not think this is a fair thing to allow to those who have suffered?

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That is why giving power to this word outside of a courtroom is so dangerous.

It's about empowering the victim on a private, internal level; not handing out power to any old person who wants to see their boyfriend in jail...

Forced sex is a neutral term that can describe what you identify as rape, but it does not connote guilt or a guilty party. It describes from a victims perspective how they have been violated. forced/ 2nd definition sexual contact.) if consent was not given.

Bold mine. Yes, I agree with this. This is (more or less) what I have been trying to communicate to you.

Is it possible that we are coming at least close to a mutual understanding of each other, and the issue? [emoji57]