Not every pedophile is a rapist.

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Yes but a 12 year old being attracted to another 12/13 year old is not the same thing as a 40 year old being attracted to someone of that age.

People date within their respective age group because they have a lot of common ground with eachother, based on them being the same age. That floats throughout life. I was attracted to other teenagers when I was a teenager yes, and that was appropriate at the time because 15 year old me dating another 15 year old was not an un-even power dynamic.

But I'm older now and I don't personally relate to teenage life anymore, so I've lost my interest for teen boys and have developed an interest for men in their 20s, because that's my current age and it's what I currently relate to the most.

I think it does involve will and decision. Let's entertain the idea, you've got someone who for whatever reason is attracted to child-like features. Why don't they just find themselves an Ariana Grande or a Josh Hutcherson, a legal adult who happens to have young-looking features? There are plenty of adults like that out there these people can aim for, but instead it has to be a child? That's what I mean when I say it's a fetish. If an old adult (who doesn't emotionally/personally connect to teenagers at their age) not only sees it as a physical thing but actually wants a child partner, it's because they get off to the feeling of having sexual power over someone inexperienced with sex. That's a fetish, not a sexuality.

You are a woman. And as a woman, you feel attraction to men. Now, what if you go to a (hypothetical) society where your desire for men is considered bad and you should be punished. How would you feel? You have been biologically programmed to like men, the same way pedophiles like kids. It would be unfair to judge you if you havent commited a crime.

Also, you are assuming pedophiles enjoy overpowering the kids, but that is not necessarily true. We are talking about a genuine attraction towards kids, not a fantasy.

But everything about it is a fantasy.  If you're an adult that thinks you are going to have a physical/romantic relationship with a child you can only have a fantasy other wise it would be illegal.