A Muslim, a Jew, a Christian, and an atheist walk into a coffee shop...

[Thumpalumpacus]

I generally get along with folks who aren't assholes, and find that most of the time, the religionistas in my life get along with me, probably for the same reason.

I think your modification of the meme only truly applies to the extremists of each group.

By extremist, you mean one who *actually* identifies with the views of their extreme founders?

No. I mean the ones who cherry-pick the ugly parts for favor, and ignore the nicer parts.

So... are these non-assholes Jewish, Christian, Muslim, etc. in name only, and don't really believe what their self-identification as followers of these extreme founders/texts would suggest they do?

An atheist deploying No True Scotsman. I'm shocked ... shocked.

To answer your question directly, no, they're believers who cherry-pick the better parts of their books -- and the atheists, (which you conveniently left out, I notice) too, generally don't come across as ragers. At least, the ones I know don't. I wouldn't call anyone an asshole based on their beliefs (or lack) -- I save that sort of invective for their behavior.

If you're a militant atheist, that's great, have a good ride with that approach. Me, I take people as people first.

YMOV, etc etc.