Christian war on women

[RoadRunner79]

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OK I certainly don't want to come off being overly dramatic or overreactive, only to discuss. Maybe you can enlight me about this. Some may know I would mention the ongoing christian war on women in those news topics, but now I saw a book that made me open a dedicated topic. The book is described on Amazon page "Praised by the Vatican!".

Title of the book is "Marry Him and Be Submissive" by catholic woman living in Italy named Costanza Miriano and translated on couple of languages, or should I say in all catholic countries.
The book is based on misogynistic lines in the Bible by St. Paul which your everyday Christians (Catholics) usually ignore and pretend it doesn't exist or delude themselves that they mean something else. Like "A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness. But I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man, but to remain quiet. For it was Adam who was first created, and then Eve."

This book "Marry Him and Be Submissive" is taking this seriously. Now I didn't read the book but I did a little research and it seems Catholics are defending it that it is more then a title and that it says women should not endure beatings from the husband in her submission to him.

Sure, but there is more way to discriminate human being then beatings. Is this book discriminating toward women? It seems to me. Like I said I didn't read it but let's look at the research and decide together.

From the description on Amazon:

"Whether to keep waiting to get married (No! Dive in! You ll never be 100% ready. )"

Really? You'll never be 100% ready means you're ready regarding the education and career? Yeap, pretty submissive.

"How to stop worrying about all the cushy first world problems and embrace the true joys of family life (even if it means cutting back on Facebook a little)"

To me this sounds like "Get into kitchen, you don't need to understand about world's problems because you're a woman and you don't matter"

"Miriano boldly, playfully, and profoundly takes the lives and loves of modern women head on, and shows how true marital happiness and holiness is found in submission. And she shows how submission real, true submission, which is about love, humility, and support will lead you to salvation. Far from belittling women, it empowers them (and their families) in ways that secular feminism can only dream of."

Yikes!

And even honest reviewers who liked the book wrote: "This is not about being a carpet, is only to follow the suggestion by St. Paul and leave the lead to the husband, who immediately would react loving even more the wife."


From the interviews with the writer Costanza Miriano, that are awailable online, it seems to get even worse:

"Also, just as Mary, with her feet, kills the serpent, so must I kill my tongue — because I don’t always have to comment, to criticize my husband. So he said in that way I could be a good wife — not that I had to be submissive for the sake of being submissive, but because I had to stop being so critical, so unbearable, as I was at the beginning of marriage."

Oh so that's what that "misunderstanding" about the title of being subbmisive is. She's only submissive because she realised she has to shut up? wtf?

"Yes, because I think feminists chose the wrong ways to affirm women, to empower women, because we adopted the masculine way. We tried to become like men, and we are not men, so we don’t need power, strength or independence. We are different. But we are not happy [because of feminism]. I know of many women who have power, success in their careers, but at the end of the day, they’re not happy, deep down."

Well this sums it down, doesn't it?

"I think, at the beginning, feminism was just like a request: We needed to be looked on by someone else, we needed someone else’s eyes on us, and when we asked for this, we asked for attention, someone to tell us we are beautiful, we are lovely. So at the beginning, feminism was a request about our looks, and it was like a spring, because women wanted to be seen. But then we adopted men’s strategies, and we lost our path — because we call abortion a “right,” the right of killing our children, to kill through using contraception."

"If we have to define a woman, the most appropriate image is a room for other people."

Again, I can't see how this book can turn out to be positive in any way.


To summon this up. I could go on with her ramblings but I think I got out what her book is about - if I'm wrong maybe someone can correct me.

I know what some of you may think "So what? Who cares, it's only a book." - yes, but like I wrote in the beginning that it is praised by Vatican which means that this book is advertised prominently in every Catholic church by people they consider the highest authority and Catholic newspapers, magazines for women to take this seriously.

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This is one of those topics, that can go wrong in both directions.   On one hand, you have those who will abuse it, those who will use it for their own purposes and desires.  On the other hand, their is the modern trend, to be immediately repulsed by the thought of submission in any reference.   I think that they both make the same mistake.   Submission is not a bad thing, and they look at submission from the wrong direction.   Many who are a little more notice a growing issue, in youth, where they are not taught any submission.   And any decent preacher cannot talk about this topic, without a whole host of prefaces and a mini-sermon on what it means for men to love their wives.

There is also the context, that in this same passage, we are told to submit to each other.  We are told to submit to authority.  And then the one that garners instant outrage, wives are told to submit to their husbands.  Submission is not a bad thing.  It is on the other side of submission, that the problem arises.

As to this review... I'm on the fence.   There are a couple of things that cause a little bit of alert.  But not enough to say it is definitely unhealthy.  Some of the allusions are a bit questionable, and I may question some of her ideas on feminism from the comments.   So I'm unsure about the book.  But I'm concerned about both distortions of the view of submission; both those rallying for or against it (for the wrong reasons).