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Give what you get?
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RE: Give what you get?
July 18, 2017 at 4:32 pm
(July 18, 2017 at 4:24 pm)*Deidre* Wrote:
(July 18, 2017 at 4:19 pm)Jesster Wrote: Well there is one big, obvious flaw I see in it right away. If everyone lived by this method, nobody would ever initiate kindness. Sometimes you have to be the one to smile first or you may find yourself never doing so.

I've also put up some walls so I'm never taken advantage of again, but I didn't build them so high that nobody could ever get through.
I agree with this. But it gets old always being the one to smile first and ask how someone is. It doesn't always make me feel appreciated as a friend.

I just stopped expecting kindness in return every time. I also limit my efforts to the amount of energy I have available. If I can help someone and it feels right, I do what I can. If it's just too much for me, I tell them I'm not feeling up to it or I'm not able to right now. Someone worthy of my friendship will understand and won't push me for more. If they can't deal with that, then I know they probably aren't really a friend.

Most of this is too situational for me to put strict rules on, though.
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Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 4:05 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Jesster - July 18, 2017 at 4:07 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 4:15 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Silver - July 18, 2017 at 4:17 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Jesster - July 18, 2017 at 4:19 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 4:24 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Jesster - July 18, 2017 at 4:32 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 4:09 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Silver - July 18, 2017 at 4:11 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 4:12 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 4:18 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 4:41 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by JackRussell - July 18, 2017 at 4:53 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Chad32 - July 18, 2017 at 4:23 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 4:26 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Silver - July 18, 2017 at 4:28 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 4:24 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Thumpalumpacus - July 18, 2017 at 4:35 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 4:38 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Silver - July 18, 2017 at 4:40 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Thumpalumpacus - July 18, 2017 at 4:47 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 5:32 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 5:35 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 5:37 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Thumpalumpacus - July 18, 2017 at 5:40 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 5:38 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 5:43 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 5:50 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 5:52 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by brewer - July 18, 2017 at 5:55 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 5:58 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Thumpalumpacus - July 18, 2017 at 7:02 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by JackRussell - July 18, 2017 at 5:48 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 5:58 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 6:00 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Thumpalumpacus - July 18, 2017 at 8:20 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 6:02 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 18, 2017 at 6:17 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by The Grand Nudger - July 18, 2017 at 6:18 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by bennyboy - July 18, 2017 at 7:24 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Rhondazvous - July 18, 2017 at 8:27 pm
RE: Give what you get? - by Astonished - July 19, 2017 at 12:35 am
RE: Give what you get? - by *Deidre* - July 20, 2017 at 11:38 am
RE: Give what you get? - by Astonished - July 21, 2017 at 1:42 am
RE: Give what you get? - by energizer bunny - July 20, 2017 at 9:49 pm

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