(July 18, 2017 at 5:50 pm)mh.brewer Wrote:(July 18, 2017 at 5:43 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: It doesn't. This seems to work for my friend, but I've never really tried it. But, I don't return kindness for meanness...I return silence. The main flaw in my friend's give what you get theory, is that I do think we gain something within ourselves, a strength or whatever, by taking the higher road. Taking the high road doesn't mean though that we have to sacrifice our integrity to be someone's friend, it rather means not stooping to someone else's level. Like when I see ad homs fly on here for example, I don't think it's necessary to zing someone back in reply. So, giving what you get in those scenarios really doesn't bridge gaps in dissenting discussions, imo.
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That's a passive position, one I don't agree with either.
The high road is good, unless you have vertigo.
Instead of silence try sarcasm! (that was really mean, good job, you must be so proud)
If you have to sacrifice your integrity to keep a friend, is that really worth it? I don't follow why you think that's a passive position.
lol @ sarcasm. Maybe I'll try that.
