I would like some advise

[ComradeMeow]

I strongly believe in honesty as it is an ethical and often times justified thing to do. This is a situation where I feel as if somebody his age would benefit from realizing that a person can be good without a god. Children internalize things often very quickly and the sooner he realizes that there are people like us who are atheists and are good people he can learn to accept this. One of my biggest issues is the fact you go to a church. I could not fathom going back to a a masjid because everytime I hear Muslims speak of a god I just break out laughing. I cannot take anything involving it seriously. This to me is something that I cannot understand with atheists in relationships or atheists trying to keep a facade when it is practical for them to drop it.

I understand it is easy for me to talk and say this but having been in a stable relationship for some years I always know my partner's stance on matters and I was very clear from the get-go that I was an atheist and more so an anti-theist. I have no problems bringing this up to people at all although I would feel more ashamed to bring up my previous religious affiliation as it embarresses me oddly enough. I am the sort of person that feels embarrassed about ever being a theist .

Now if your wife truly loves you I hope she can come to grips that you are not a theist and in no way shape or form a Catholic man. You should also have no restraints in calling out the ludicrous if pressured to but at the same time remain respectful. But this does involve your child and you may also wish to take into account that your child may go blabbing up and down the halls that their daddy is an atheist. Having dealt in a daycare I know full well how unrestricted children's mouths are and it is astonishing many of them cannot put it together on the effects of language.

I do think some amount of honesty is needed int his situation though. How much I cannot say since you should be able to predict the reactions better than I.