Better terminology for "Father and Son" ?

[Astreja]

God doesn't work by human rules and you should know that.

That's because your god doesn't "work" at all -- it's no more than a primitive fiction that humanity is gradually outgrowing.

I do not use it as a threat, how could I...

I disagree.  I think that at very least you use it to attempt to regain the upper hand in the conversation.  I do hold you responsible for your threats regardless, because your imaginary friend ain't the one making 'em.

Even if I had a nightmare like that it would not sway my belief because of my love and devotion to God and I know almost all my family is saved.

From my POV, not one of you is actually "saved."  I believe that there are no gods, heavens or hells awaiting any of you, and that your fates are identical to mine -- death and insentience, and the loss of everything we ever knew and believed, without any hope whatsoever of continuance beyond the grave.  You will one day lose your faith, and not even know that it is gone.