(September 16, 2017 at 9:01 am)Die Atheistin Wrote: He called me today so we can speak. He told me many things about what I should and shouldn't do later in life. At some point, he told me that my future husband must be christian, it doesn't matter the denomination.
This is hypocrisy, my dad doesn't believe in Hell, and he told me years ago that other religions aren't worse than ours.
I'm in the closet atheist, and I would prefer to marry a nonebeliever like me. Yes, two persons with different religions, or a religios and a nonreligious person can get married and be happy, but I do think that atheism is right. I see other beliefs as wrong, and I don't claim otherwise, so I'm not a hypocrite, unlike my dad.
Dad insists so much sometimes about me marrying a man, I'm lucky I'm not a lesbian. I'm pretty sure he would accept me, or at the very least tolerate me if I was asexual and/or aromantic, since society doesn't usually discriminate against those kind of people, not in Europe at the very least. The thing is, I'm not entirely sure about my sexuality. I never had a crush, not a serious one at the very least, but I do feel some kind of attraction towards males, I'm not sure about girls, though. I've had fantasies about being with both boys and girls, I didn't ask for those fantasies, they sympli happened. The idea of dating an intersex person doesn't disgust me. Also, I don't know if I would like dating a transgender or non-binary person, I don't have anything against them, I sympli don't know if I am romantically or sexually attracted to them. I don't know if I'm bisexual, bi-curious, pansexual, or something else.
Ultimately your dad has no say when you are an adult. If he really loves you he doesn't have to like what you do but he still will love you. I hate the wholesale idea that marriage and having kids is the only script to life, much less the stupid attitude that you have to stick to your own label of religion. It is your life, that doesn't make you ungrateful if you marry an atheist or you don't get married at all. You are not his clone you are your own individual. If you are happy and stable and not a violent criminal, that is really what should matter to him, married or not.
