Could I sue my religion over this?

[KevinM1]

So here is my argument... Can a large organization just kick a member out without any accountability?

Yes.

The church isn't your employment, and you're not part of a protected class. They have not abused you in any way, thus they are not liable for damages (or anything else).

Also, treat this as Exhibit A as to why adhering so closely to religious institutions and the rules they implement is bullshit. Your problems with your wife, from what you say, come largely from external pressure placed upon you by the church. To reasonable people, that's bullshit.