(October 22, 2017 at 7:39 am)Whateverist Wrote:(October 22, 2017 at 7:32 am)mh.brewer Wrote: When I was in high school it was how guys carried their books. One arm and off to the side - straight, Two arms and across your chest - questionable.
For girls it was a tougher call.
Yeah, I remember that one too now. Interesting. Both of these were passed along wisdom as opposed to pattern noticing things we came up with ourselves.
Of those patterns we picked up on ourselves, I used to think gays in general were less inhibited in their spoken expression and generally more articulate. Then again when I was really young I didn't know many openly gay individuals, even living in the bay area. Not sure if I believe that any longer though, having known too many well spoken known straights and less fluid speaking gays later on. Stereotypes are rarely reliable are they? Like I always assumed conservatives were simply self congratulatory, silver spoon born individuals with a need to justify their pigs at the trough approach to life. But then I met Corwin in RL and yourself online. Stupid stereotypes.
I didn't meet/know any "out" gays until college. For all I know the ones we accused of being gay in HS were just the passive non "manly" types (and I kinda fit the non manly). HS was so tribal. We had little pigeon holes for almost everyone.
Yep, stereotypes and labels may sometimes be appropriate and fit but when I apply them and get it wrong I feel like an ass.
BTW, I think you're OK too but give it up already and cut your hair ya hippie freak.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
