(November 16, 2017 at 6:45 am)Mr.Obvious Wrote: I don't know it this relates, but I find the quest for happiness overrated.
Trying to be happy means failure from the start. You can't try to be happy. Trying to be happy is proof that you are not happy. You can't chase happyness, it can only come to you. and the moment you ask yourself: 'am I happy', its a sign you are not.
As long as I'm just content, I don't worry about happyness. Our goal shouldn't be to strive for happiness, imho. Just try to remove and minimalize what actively makes you unhappy.
Yes and no.
I'd agree that far too much of the world chases impossible utopias, expect others and themselves to be super human, in that context yea, that kind of "happiness" is counter productive, because when they don't meet those expectations, that causes depression, family problems all sorts of things.
But to say you cant be happy sometimes, smile, laugh, have fun, no. That is perfectly fine and healthy. Nobody is ever happy 100% every waking minute of their lives from birth to death, but it is certainly ok to value what you have and share that smile with others.
So yea, I agree, it isn't an either or thing, but trying to minimize the stress is the key.
