I have not been following the thread. Not sure if your mom is dead yet or still dying. I am not being insensitive, this is just how I approach everything. I, unfortunately, do not have much of a bedside manner. The death of others, even my own family, does not affect me in any way, yet I suppose I can somewhat understand how it concerns others.
"Never trust a fox. Looks like a dog, behaves like a cat."
~ Erin Hunter
~ Erin Hunter