(December 24, 2017 at 6:41 pm)Lutrinae Wrote:(December 24, 2017 at 6:36 pm)Brian37 Wrote: I would think unless you are a psychopath you have at least some family or friends or co workers that if where suddenly not there it would give you pause.
Isn't there someone in your life even if they did not die, that said "I have to move" whom you wish didn't have to because you got along so well with them?
I feel a huge loss, not because of magic or gods. I feel a huge loss with my mom, because even with our differences, she always had my back, and she grew to accept me the way I was. The bittersweet aspect was all the simple silly jokes and games we made up in recent years. I would give anything to have another day with her.
It is understandable that her loss has affected you.
As for me, probably only my boyfriend. To be honest, though, I have cried at the loss of pets but never family members. My grandmother died, and nothing. My stepmother died, and nothing. I am certain I will feel nothing when my sister dies. When my pet bird died, however, I cried like crazy.
I wouldn't make this about humans vs pets, or pets vs humans. It is ultimately about the affinity you have to other life. I can be either a pet, or a boyfriend or a co worker. What you feel is what you are used to and what you value. Your boyfriend to you is to me like my mother. Nobody is telling you to feel emotions you don't have. But you do have them.
My mom gave me value and not having that around is where empathy and pain come from. The same can be said for boyfriends, girlfriends, and even pets. There is no script to love.
