Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[henryp]

I did read what you said.  It's that guys should stop if the woman says no.  And if it's uncomfortable, find out what's wrong.

I said more than that. On just what you paraphrased alone, I said more like, "find out specifically what is uncomfortable, whether it's everything or something specific."

That's not a ton of responsibility.  It's 'don't commit a sex crime against her'.  We're dumb animals, but I think we can shoulder a bit more of the burden.

Don't be ridiculous. That's not what I said.

You also said creepy guys kissing you is gross, but just a part of being a woman. 

Nope. Not what I said. It's part of being human. It applies to men too. Also, I at the very least implied that if there is any reason for him to think the kiss is unwanted, he shouldn't do it. Sometimes, going in for a kiss is how people, both men and women, initiate mating. Stop trying to make it sound like I'm trying to shrug off assault and normalize unwarranted sexual advances.

You're definitely coming from a different place when you have a 'just deal with it' attitude for a lot of this stuff that I think is a ways away from what many want to or are capable of just dealing with.

You've got to be shitting me. "Just deal with it?" You're not even defining "it." You're just blasting out one-liners that you think sum up my whole position on sexual interactions, misrepresenting me in grievous ways. Don't worry. You're not the first man (I assumed your gender) to tell me my opinions on womanhood are wrong on this forum while signalling that they're super feminist guardians of the vagina.

Yeah, for whatever reason, I haven't been able to pin down your takes on the matter.  That's not intentional.  I'm not trying to 'win an argument', I'm just curious what people think, so it's odd there's been such a disconnect.  Usually, I'm better at intuiting people's opinions.  

But as it pertains to this discussion, I've read a lot of other women who've had a very different take than you (or maybe not, since I've been getting it wrong).  So I'm not discounting your opinion, I'm trying to reconcile the two differing opinions together in thinking about how things should be just as a thought exercise. 

As a virtue signalling super feminist vagina guarder, I'm often prone to this sort of thing.