Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist

[LadyForCamus]

Damn, you beat me to it!   

I disagree that it’s a comparable scenario though.  And, I don’t think women should be operating under the assumption that every guy who hits on her while they’re alone together is going to most certainly rape her if she rejects his advances, lol.

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@everyone defending this dude, will you have the same attitude if this happened to your daughter?

My daughters wouldn't have been in that situation to begin with.

You think that Alpha, but frankly, you’re probably wrong.  Everyone makes bad decisions along the way.

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It's amazing to watch people carry on as if they don't remember that "Grace" DID NOT accuse Ansari of RAPE, but of being a pushy, piggy, creep. Perhaps the reason she considered his behavior to be noteworthy, AND the reason why the press saw fit to run the story, was because the guy was clearing misrepresenting himself in purporting to be a staunch ally/supporter of sexual harassment and misconduct awareness.

Like it or not, such blatant hypocrisy on the part of a well-known celebrity is indeed considered newsworthy.
 
Yet and still, we have many folks, including women (many of whom are sexual assault survivors) enthusiastically try 'Grace" in the Most High Court of Shoulda Woulda Coulda and determine her to be not a victim of anything even resembling mistreatment, due to her personal "failings" and "stupidity", but fail remarkably at holding "poor Aziz" to the same rigorous standards and scrutiny of what "should've" been done.

Unfortunately, it's just not uncommon for some survivors of sexual assault to engage in vehement victim-blaming. They've been socialized to do so, along with everyone else. 
Still, it's pretty sickening to watch. Very sad.

I don’t think that’s a fair representation of anything I’ve said.  I just don’t believe she was the victim of a crime.  I’m sorry that she had such trouble verbalizing what she wanted and didn’t want.  And, as I’ve said before, I think he behaved like an insensitive prick.  I think they both could have done better, but I fail to see an assault here.  

And @Cecilia, if you read, I have already said I don’t think this scenario is comparable to child/adult, or incapacitated female/male scenarios which, given the same actions, would unquestionably be sexual assault.  I don’t think she’s stupid, and I’m certainly not saying, “well, if she didn’t want sex she shouldn’t have gone back to his place.”  I’m simply of the opinion that she did a lousy job of expressing non-consent.  And, he did a lousy job of being an empathetic, attentive sexual partner.