RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 17, 2018 at 1:26 pm
(This post was last modified: January 17, 2018 at 1:34 pm by The Grand Nudger.)
(January 17, 2018 at 1:22 pm)Joods Wrote: As for myself, I was merely stating the fact that she was free to go at any time. There is no blame to be had in this situation.
What I see is two grown adults, fully capable of verbalizing what they want and what they don't want. I see a woman who was not being held down against her will nor was she being forced to do things she didn't want to do. I see a man who was more interested in having sex than she was and was more intent on it than her, but she wasn't objecting and the entire time, she was free to stop the activity and leave. She had options that she chose not to exercise until the point that it became uncomfortable for her and then she left on her own accord.
If a I may, joods. When people read the first sentence...and then the following paragraph, they might come away feeling that you have implicitly engaged in a consideration of desert and culpibility. Of blame and blame setting.
I don't think they'd be entirely wrong, and they probably don't think that you were reading the same story they were. I remember my original misapprehension, from not going direct to the source at first...that she was not claiming sexual assault and had -not- vocally objected. Turns out she is..and remembers to have done so, repeatedly. The hypothesis now is some sort of "he didn't notice that he was the lead in a b movie about dating". That she failed to say..."excuse me sir, would you please remove your fingers from my vagina" as he was stuffing them down her throat. That she could not finish her objection..which he verbally acknowledged, because he gave her the shut up creeper kiss when she turned to do so.
That after all of this, she finally does say enough, loudly enough..and in the right way (I guess) for him to suddenly snap attention. The story, however, is certainly not one of suddenly changing her mind and the whole situation changing at that moment..but of enduring a violation for some amount of time for reasons she cannot properly articulate. No, he didn't tie her to a chair with rubber hose...but if he had, we wouldn't be having this conversation, obviously.
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