RE: Aziz Ansari Doesn't Pick Up On "Non-Verbal Cues" and Gets Treated Like A Rapist
January 18, 2018 at 2:49 am
(This post was last modified: January 18, 2018 at 2:53 am by Edwardo Piet.)
(January 17, 2018 at 1:56 pm)Shell B Wrote: Note: she remains naked when she goes to the couch with him, which makes me think he could have thought she was uncomfortable with the specific acts they were performing, not with sex altogether, because you could reasonably assume she would get dressed if she was uncomfortable.
Yeah it's all very vague. If you don't want sex anymore you say that you don't want sex anymore. If you just vaguely say that you're uncomfortable and you're already having sex then it could easily mean you're uncomfortable with a specific sexual act that is happening in the moment.
It's important to be clear when you have something important to say. It's not the time for vagueness.
(January 17, 2018 at 2:01 pm)Shell B Wrote:(January 17, 2018 at 1:58 pm)Mermaid Wrote: This is why I am not going to conclude one way or another about whether sexual assault took place.
The claw isn't a sex act, and she never said to him, "Hey, I don't like you sticking your fingers in my mouth." I stand by the fact that you have to use your words. The sex acts that were performed, she herself said she didn't vocally object to. In other words, she didn't say no when he went down on her, and she didn't say no when she gave him a blowjob, twice. Those are the specific things I'm looking at.
The way she describes how she gave clues/cues that she was uncomfortable while at the same time being aware that he isn't getting it.... is really weird to me. Why would you be thinking in your head "He's not getting it" (or something to that effect) rather than just telling him that he's not getting it?
When she did tell him with the "You guys are all the fucking same" thing ... it sounds to me like that was her true thoughts coming out later. It's like she was hiding her true intentions and allowing him to remain completely oblivious. If you KNOW someone is oblivious... and you want someone to stop what they're doing.... then say what you think rather than expecting them to take a hint when you're already well aware that they're missing all the hints and totally not getting it. I don't get it.