I don't see how commitment is the real thing. I think it's a blanket that goes OVER the real thing, a by-product of the real thing rather than the other way around. An attachment, not compassion. Fear of losing the other person etc, attachment - that's why you commit. You want to stay together - but it can still go wrong anyway. And surely the attachment, the fear of losing, the wanting to commit means that you believe (at least partly) that there's something to worry about?
Surely if you can stay together WITHOUT 'committing' TO, and just stay together naturally - then that shows you're just getting on great together rather than attaching yourself because you 'dont want to lose each other'.
I think Love is more about the joy, wonder, awe, inspiration, and love in general, etc, etc of being WITH each other - rather than the attachment and fear of LOSING each other so you commit because you don't want to lose....I just think people often love each other so much that they START feeling "What would I do if they lost them?" BECOME (at least more) attached and WANT TO 'commit'. I just think that love would still be better without it, whether it's uncommon or not.
Commitment may be a sign of love because it's a common by-product of love. But I still think love at it's best is IDEALLY better of without it because commitment is more based on attachment whereas genuine love IN ITSELF is based more on compassion (and lots of other good things, awe, wonder, inspiration and all the rest).
It's just what I feel. I don't have the experience but then I guess I also don't have those experiences to be jaded and/or mislead by either - and I've kind of been an observer on others more instead. Learnt from other people's mistakes, etc.
EvF
Surely if you can stay together WITHOUT 'committing' TO, and just stay together naturally - then that shows you're just getting on great together rather than attaching yourself because you 'dont want to lose each other'.
I think Love is more about the joy, wonder, awe, inspiration, and love in general, etc, etc of being WITH each other - rather than the attachment and fear of LOSING each other so you commit because you don't want to lose....I just think people often love each other so much that they START feeling "What would I do if they lost them?" BECOME (at least more) attached and WANT TO 'commit'. I just think that love would still be better without it, whether it's uncommon or not.
Commitment may be a sign of love because it's a common by-product of love. But I still think love at it's best is IDEALLY better of without it because commitment is more based on attachment whereas genuine love IN ITSELF is based more on compassion (and lots of other good things, awe, wonder, inspiration and all the rest).
It's just what I feel. I don't have the experience but then I guess I also don't have those experiences to be jaded and/or mislead by either - and I've kind of been an observer on others more instead. Learnt from other people's mistakes, etc.
EvF