RE: Is long term monogamy unnatural for human beings?
April 2, 2018 at 12:50 pm
(This post was last modified: April 2, 2018 at 12:52 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
(April 2, 2018 at 12:31 pm)Jenny A Wrote: It doesn't appear to be natural for birds either. Genetic testing reveals so called monogomous pairs cheat. httpslif://www.birdwatchersdigest.com/bwdsite/solve/faqs/do-birds-mate-for-e.php http://animals.mom.me/birds-monogamous-4226.html
And most birds are only socially monogamous for a single season.
For me living and sharing my life with just one person is pretty natural. Not cheating sexually occasionally requires effort. But not often.
I would think we're more naturally monogamous than most birds (or any other animal for that matter).
Swans I think are an exception.
But I think we're kind of sexual omnivores, really. Like we are with food... we take what we can get and if that means being faithful to one person, fine, if it doesn't, fine.
I think things like sexual jealousy or fear of losing the partner you have contribute to monogamy in humans, but I think our drives contribute to polygamy.
Of course, polygamy isn't the same as cheating. It's not cheating if you never established a monogamous relationship in the first place.
I really think it's both.
Although yeah I'd say our basic urges are sexually polygamous but then we do have a monogamous drive for protecting one partner over others, and for feelings of romance, and for protecting a partner who bears our child, so I'd say we have as many drives for monogamy as polygamy.
