(May 15, 2009 at 5:03 pm)chatpilot Wrote: "BTW Did you know nearly all people living together state a desire to marry?"
Of course frodo that is how it is here in the states at least.Marriage is an institution that is ingrained in our earliest traditions.It's considered "the right thing to do" but in my case after 12 in a half years of marriage it turned out to be the biggest mistake of my life.But amidst all that shit I had to deal with I got two beautiful daughters out of it and that is something that made it all worth while.
Also,if you are married and staying in a marriage for the sake of the kids then you are in it for all the wrong reasons.I made that mistake too and in the long run it just does not work out.And depending on how it's handled it can be more damaging to the children than if you moved out of the home and still maintained a nice relationship with them.
Good post.I empathise.
I was also married for 12 years. She left. No kids,for which I'm exceedingly glad.
PS: Many Americans especially those who have spent little elsewhere, seem to think the rest of the world is or should be like the US. EG Marriage rates here have dropped significantly over the last generation,as the age at marriage has risen. I have never seen a claim that 'most' people living together want to get married.
The use of surveys to "prove" anything about the feelings or motivations of individuals,let alone large numbers of people is a notoriously problematic methodology on which to depend soley.
