Mostly @ Chatpilot.
Yes of course. There's also the fact that doing it 'just for the kids' can INDEED be worse...AT LEAST if only in the long run....
I mean if in the end you have to break up and divorce anyway; it's better for the kids it was done sooner or later really in a lot of cases.
BUT, it's not black or white still. There are cases when it MAY be best to stay in a n unloving relationship (temporarily anyway) because it would be the wrong time to break-up the relationship; that IF it was done then then it would screw the kids up and it's better to wait for another moment....perhaps when they're a bit older so the resulting stress of the breakup effects them less bad psychologically. And it's often worse for YOUNGER children when parents break-up I think (although perhaps not if they're VERY young - cos they might not even be old enough to remember then I guess - sad tho ).
But in the end staying together 'just for the kids' often leads to a break-up anyway (or if not it's still very sad a couple staying together for so long when they don't love each other, just 'tolerating' or whatever...at least until they 'grow up' anyway) - and sooner is often (perhaps not ALWAYS, but still..) better than later.
EvF
Yes of course. There's also the fact that doing it 'just for the kids' can INDEED be worse...AT LEAST if only in the long run....
I mean if in the end you have to break up and divorce anyway; it's better for the kids it was done sooner or later really in a lot of cases.
BUT, it's not black or white still. There are cases when it MAY be best to stay in a n unloving relationship (temporarily anyway) because it would be the wrong time to break-up the relationship; that IF it was done then then it would screw the kids up and it's better to wait for another moment....perhaps when they're a bit older so the resulting stress of the breakup effects them less bad psychologically. And it's often worse for YOUNGER children when parents break-up I think (although perhaps not if they're VERY young - cos they might not even be old enough to remember then I guess - sad tho ).
But in the end staying together 'just for the kids' often leads to a break-up anyway (or if not it's still very sad a couple staying together for so long when they don't love each other, just 'tolerating' or whatever...at least until they 'grow up' anyway) - and sooner is often (perhaps not ALWAYS, but still..) better than later.
EvF