I agree with you but I think it's not entirely Black and White...
In SOME cases I can imagine it being better to postpone for when the kids (depending on their age) would be less distressed by the split up. For 'when the time is right', etc.
But yes, of course - staying in an unloving relationship in and of itself AT LEAST is NOT a good thing. AND in AT LEAST a LOT of cases (the majority I'd argue, yes) - splitting up sooner rather than later is better for the kids TOO. Because not only will living with their parents not loving each other any more be very tough - but their parents splitting up LATER after they're so used to their parents being together would probably be more distressing than if it happened sooner.
So I almost COMPLETELY agree with you...but I still think there must be SOME exceptions however rare....
But even with those exceptions of course. You CERTAINLY wouldn't want the unloving relationship to stay that way till the END! Who would want that!??! Just perhaps in SOME cases (however rare) a BIT later MAY be better if the 'time isn't right' earlier...
I guess I don't really believe in absolutes in many cases ( or all(?)) this being included. It's not ALL black and white I think at least.
EvF
In SOME cases I can imagine it being better to postpone for when the kids (depending on their age) would be less distressed by the split up. For 'when the time is right', etc.
But yes, of course - staying in an unloving relationship in and of itself AT LEAST is NOT a good thing. AND in AT LEAST a LOT of cases (the majority I'd argue, yes) - splitting up sooner rather than later is better for the kids TOO. Because not only will living with their parents not loving each other any more be very tough - but their parents splitting up LATER after they're so used to their parents being together would probably be more distressing than if it happened sooner.
So I almost COMPLETELY agree with you...but I still think there must be SOME exceptions however rare....
But even with those exceptions of course. You CERTAINLY wouldn't want the unloving relationship to stay that way till the END! Who would want that!??! Just perhaps in SOME cases (however rare) a BIT later MAY be better if the 'time isn't right' earlier...
I guess I don't really believe in absolutes in many cases ( or all(?)) this being included. It's not ALL black and white I think at least.
EvF
