(June 1, 2018 at 4:23 am)Libertarian God Wrote: I ask a friend of mine out on a date she says she will have to think about it because she recently returned from a year long service project and is having difficulty adjusting. Now, I think she is just not that interested. I have consulted others and they have told me that I am not entitled to know the reason why. Even though i think it's fair if she would just tell me straight up she isn't interested. I mean I have tried being persistent. I have talked to her about it twice, and she throws out the same response. I don't want to harass her, but part of me thinks that she should just be straight up and tell me I'm not interested. Would it be too much for me to say this? I mean it's not going to hurt my feelings if she does. I would also let her know that too.
Also, as someone who is normally shy and constantly being told that's my problem this is a big deal for me. I'm actually trying to grow some balls and stick up for myself, don't women like that?
I trust your wisdom on this. I'm not trying to be a dick either.
She's not interested in dating you. If she were, she wouldn't tell you that she has to think about it. If you're looking for someone to date, it's time to respect your friend's answer and move on.
She gave you a reason why - "recently returned from a year long service project and is having difficulty adjusting".
Persistently asking a woman who's already expressed disinterest in dating you for a date is not ballsy and sticking up for yourself. It's far ballsy-ier to accept it and move on.
-Teresa
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