(August 6, 2018 at 12:28 pm)Aroura Wrote:(August 6, 2018 at 11:09 am)mh.brewer Wrote: Jor mentioned it and I will also. He needs to find a pain management center that knows how to deal with chronic pain.
Really? You think they need to find a place that will help him get treatment for his problem? Wow thanks! I'm sure they hadn't thought of that or spent months (or longer) doing just that already. All of their problems are now solved.
Look, I know that came off super bitchy and sarcastic, but my point was that this is part of a systemic problem with American medicine. It's not that they haven't tried. I actually had this whole reasonable response typed up, but I was getting really frustrated explaining, and it's not even my family or my problem.
It made me think, this woman and her children have been dealing with this pain management issue about their husband/father for a long time. A LONG time. (his accident was over a decade ago, it's only in the last 1 to 2 years he's had a hard time getting pain meds). Their daily life revolves around taking care of him, at least in part. I cannot imagine trying to share this heartbreaking story and getting this kind of obvious, if well meaning, response on a regular basis. I would want to strangle people.
What I know is they have even gone out of state looking for help for him. For whatever reason, doctors in their insurance group are unwilling to prescribe what he needs long term. I know they have looked into everything they can, and their last option is to change the system itself, to force a doctor in their network to help, because their IS NO pain management enter they can afford that will treat him.
TLDR: well meaning comments can sounds super condescending and be an extra source of frustration for people who really don't need it. IRL with people in actual crisis, think before you speak.
OK, piss off then.
Being told you're delusional does not necessarily mean you're mental.
