(January 3, 2019 at 12:10 pm)wyzas Wrote:(January 3, 2019 at 11:15 am)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: They don't have a problem with therapy, but dad is pretty paranoid. If I tell them I'm going to therapy, they'll ask me why and I don't talk about my problems with them. A big reason why I have emotional problems in the first place is because of them. They made some mistakes in the past which really hurt me, even though they didn't intended to. They have good intentions and would try to fix the problem, but I don't trust them to do a good job.
Then don't. They don't need to know why and you don't have to tell, at least not at this time.
^^^
What happens in therapy is deeply personal and that boundary should respected. I was in a similar situation as the OP with my parents when I was young. I'm 51 and still have trust issues with my mother and I never did develop much of an adult relationship with my father, who has passed. They also had good intentions, at least to start, but it became ambivalence.
Anyhow, getting with a good therapist is a necessary and excellent step towards sorting whatever the emotional challenges you are facing are. I did not have that insight or desire when I was young and I wish I had.
I sincerely hope you feel better, and if you never need an ear, my PM inbox is open.
