Can a mistake be so big, that the one who did will never have your respect again?

[Brian37]

Is it possible for someone to make such a big mistake, that you will never respect them again no matter what they do? What if you still appreciate the good about them and still want a relationship with them, but you tell them: "Your mistake was so big that our relationship will have a big ugly hole forever, even if it's alright otherwise.". I personally think that the worst mistakes are the ones who have or could have terrible consequences on others than yourself and innocents as well, could've been easily avoided, the offender had zero or very little impulse to do so as well a lot of obvious reasons not to and the offender had good intentions. If they have bad intentions they either lack empathy or choose to ignore it. Don't get me wrong, I do believe that evil people are worse than well intentioned people, but I find it harder to forgive the ones who have good intentions, because if they fail to do good, they fail to accomplish what they tried to. As far as I know, psychopats didn't choose to be the way they are, so there's that. And if someone has empathy, but refuses to follow it, they might be victims themselves, but even if they aren't, I would have less expectations from them, than from someone with good intentions, at least average intelligence and that hasn't been brainwashed or forced to do and/or believe extremely stupid and/or distructive things.

I have long since hated the word "respect". Far too often, the user means, "Know your place" or "Don't bruise my ego.".  Don't get me wrong, nobody likes to feel like they are being abused, even if only verbally. I use the word "value" instead. I value those who can respond when I ask them to not do something. But if they continue, I don't have any obligation to stay in a position where their behavior is repeated if it is that stressful or emotionally draining on a daily basis. Ultimately you need to consider your own mental health, and what you are willing or not willing to put up with. You can part company with someone, forgive them, but still not want to be around them.

Yes, I have cut people off out of my life, even family. I don't wish them ill will, but they were too emotionally draining to deal with.