Someone close to me.......

[arewethereyet]

I find it interesting that you bring up extremes like turning to religion often mean joining the Klan or becoming Nazi. Actually, it makes perfect sense as you seem to only see things in the context of extremes.

How each person reacts to similar situations another has experienced isn't at issue. Everyone brings their own 'stuff' to traumatizing or merely upsetting events. Just because you have been divorced and have had people die doesn't mean that your way of dealing is better or worse than anyone else's reactions.

This person has been through a lot it seems and has found a way to cope. Most likely they were looking for something.

Maybe this person you know will forever stay fundie. Maybe the pendulum will swing back. Maybe they needed a lifeline and people of the church have been that lifeline.

Let them go through their grief. If you think they are ready to open a vein or give themselves a fatal shot of heroin...then guide them to help, if you can.