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When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 1, 2019 at 6:25 pm
Let's say that someone feels tempted to abuse someone else, but at the same time doesn't. Maybe they used to be in an abusive relationship or maybe they didn't. Anyway, the former decides to cut contact with the latter and explains why. But the one who is in danger of being abused cares about the other one and insists that they should continue talking. The one who feels the temptation to abuse would still prefer not to take any risks, so what should be done?
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 1, 2019 at 6:35 pm
What should be done is, you should seek counselling. You are becoming increasingly morbid as each day passes. It's not healthy, you need help.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm
I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm
(April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 1, 2019 at 7:07 pm
(April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: (April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
What Succubus said. Get help. Get it now. Don't wait. You have issues that aren't going to be solved on a message board. You need counselling and you need it sooner rather than later.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 2, 2019 at 6:38 am
(April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: (April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
No matter what someone might do to you, acting out of revenge is not the answer. I would seriously suggest you find counselling and move out. Nothing is worth injury, death or prison. You are not going to find any advice here justifying harm to yourself or others.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 2, 2019 at 9:37 am
(April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: (April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
As Brian pointed out what I highlighted isn't justice it's revenge. I do find it ironic that your posit a termination of communication in response to a mistake of communication. Most people try and work out their differences and repair communication. I think you're personally far too deeply rooted in your headspace and care far too much about getting what you want right now. If you have your own space exercise some control over that and make some decisions on where you want to be in 3 years, then micro task that stuff. Patience for fruit.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 2, 2019 at 9:53 am
(April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: (April 1, 2019 at 6:42 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know what to say to you any more. You seem to like being a victim.
Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
Justice? You mean vengeance.
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RE: When someone wishes to abuse cuts the contact
April 2, 2019 at 10:03 am
(April 2, 2019 at 9:53 am)Acrobat Wrote: (April 1, 2019 at 6:53 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: Maybe I am guilty of this on some level. I don't do this for attention, it's because I have questions. Mom did a mistake and made me really mad and now I feel tempted to abuse her. She didn't abuse me, the mistake was lack of communication. I believe that because I was wronged I feel like justice needs to be served and that I don't deserve being in such a situation.
I believe that maybe ending the relationship would be the safest option.
Justice? You mean vengeance.
I don't mind the word "Justice" but like any word, that can be subjective.
I do not like the old "eye for an eye" interpretation.
But I do think, there is a lagit concept of "justice" in finding the truth, and containment, not revenge, but pursuit of truth, and when proven, the containment of harmful actions.
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