I find most anxiety in relationships, and in life in general, to be unfounded. If I'm dating a girl, and it's established that we're being monogamous, that we only want one another, at least for the time being, and we go out to a bar, I don't care if she flirts or talks to other guys. She can look at other guys and talk to them and share a drink - I'm not going to trip about that. We're all humans, we all like sex, and women are no different - as much as clueless men will try to tell you otherwise... Overheard a conversation in a bar last night of two girls I know talking about their boyfriends dicks in a very intense amount of detail... Yes, gentlemen, they talk about us just like we talk about them - big surprise, right? LOL.
It's okay if she finds some guy in the bar attractive and looks at him or goes and talks to him. It's completely natural, and often not even something that's done consciously. And even if it is - that's fine too. But if it gets to the point where they're actually exchanging numbers, and she's letting him believe that there's a real shot, that means she's not bringing me up, which means she doesn't want him to know that I'm in the picture. That's a red flag. And everyone has their own line that they draw... I know guys, friends of mine, who don't even really want their girlfriends talking to other guys if we're out at the bar or something... To me, that's a bit controlling, but it's not my relationship, so I don't judge.
The point is, I'm not going to try and control what my girl does. Her actions will show me whether or not she respects me. I don't need to try to cling on to her and prevent her from being exposed to the world, or other men, more specifically... that will, if anything, push her away, and make her more likely to cheat, or seek some kind of emotional comfort with another man, which is just as bad as cheating, in many ways.
My point in saying all of this is: If you two respect and trust each other, and I assume you want my advice because this is a public thread, then there shouldn't be this much talk of cheating, especially only three months into the relationship. That's hardly even your girlfriend at three months LOL.
Just saying man: there's already some red flags here popping up that you should be taking note of. I know how it is... you meet a new girl, the conversation is good, you love being around her, the sex is good, she likes the same things you like, or whatever it is that creates the connection. But despite all of the good shit, an insecure woman, or man, can ruin a good relationship without even trying to. Just don't get your hopes up brother, it sounds like she's got some baggage that she's unloading on you pretty early in the relationship. You might be the rebound guy, or something else... who knows? I know we love to act like we really know our significant others, but do we? Plenty of people do, sure. But a lot of fucking people don't. We often try to present the best version of ourselves... don't we?
How much do you really know this woman? I'm just asking you to think about it. That's all. For me, talk of cheating and infidelity three months into a relationship, to the point where she's concerned about you going on a trip without her, is really fucking alarming.
My brother, right now, is dating some girl, who is the sister of our friend's girlfriend... she's already bossing him around and getting him involved in family drama and all of this other shit. But he's pussy-whipped, so he's putting up with it, and it's really sad to watch. They've been together three weeks and trust me, I'm telling him the same shit I'm telling you.
Red flags are red flags. Don't ignore them.
It's okay if she finds some guy in the bar attractive and looks at him or goes and talks to him. It's completely natural, and often not even something that's done consciously. And even if it is - that's fine too. But if it gets to the point where they're actually exchanging numbers, and she's letting him believe that there's a real shot, that means she's not bringing me up, which means she doesn't want him to know that I'm in the picture. That's a red flag. And everyone has their own line that they draw... I know guys, friends of mine, who don't even really want their girlfriends talking to other guys if we're out at the bar or something... To me, that's a bit controlling, but it's not my relationship, so I don't judge.
The point is, I'm not going to try and control what my girl does. Her actions will show me whether or not she respects me. I don't need to try to cling on to her and prevent her from being exposed to the world, or other men, more specifically... that will, if anything, push her away, and make her more likely to cheat, or seek some kind of emotional comfort with another man, which is just as bad as cheating, in many ways.
My point in saying all of this is: If you two respect and trust each other, and I assume you want my advice because this is a public thread, then there shouldn't be this much talk of cheating, especially only three months into the relationship. That's hardly even your girlfriend at three months LOL.
Just saying man: there's already some red flags here popping up that you should be taking note of. I know how it is... you meet a new girl, the conversation is good, you love being around her, the sex is good, she likes the same things you like, or whatever it is that creates the connection. But despite all of the good shit, an insecure woman, or man, can ruin a good relationship without even trying to. Just don't get your hopes up brother, it sounds like she's got some baggage that she's unloading on you pretty early in the relationship. You might be the rebound guy, or something else... who knows? I know we love to act like we really know our significant others, but do we? Plenty of people do, sure. But a lot of fucking people don't. We often try to present the best version of ourselves... don't we?
How much do you really know this woman? I'm just asking you to think about it. That's all. For me, talk of cheating and infidelity three months into a relationship, to the point where she's concerned about you going on a trip without her, is really fucking alarming.
My brother, right now, is dating some girl, who is the sister of our friend's girlfriend... she's already bossing him around and getting him involved in family drama and all of this other shit. But he's pussy-whipped, so he's putting up with it, and it's really sad to watch. They've been together three weeks and trust me, I'm telling him the same shit I'm telling you.
Red flags are red flags. Don't ignore them.
If you're frightened of dying, and you're holding on, you'll see devils tearing your life away. But if you've made your peace, then the devils are really angels, freeing you from the Earth.
