(November 3, 2019 at 12:21 pm)I believe in Harry Potter Wrote: Okay then so how should i hide disagreement if i see everything wrong with most of the outrageous things and ideas that they have? Yeah i know avoid them , already do, and that's why i don't really have any real life friend
The expression we use is "pick your battles", meaning, prioritize what you want to take a stand concerning. Some battles you simply can't win. Some you can afford to just walk away from and let go of your desire for people to be other than what they are.
I don't know how old you are but if you're under about 25 years old, you're still likely to be reactive just naturally around separating from your parents / family / elders and finding yourself as it is. You may see the differences in belief with your family as a bigger deal than it really needs to be.
My parents are dead, and I chose, for better or worse, never to reveal my apostasy to them. It was a decision that made sense because (1) they weren't meddlers or the controlling type and (2) most of my adult life, they were over 2,000 miles away and I didn't have to interact with them on a regular basis. I also understood that they would be very concerned and upset to know the truth, but I couldn't see what purpose it would serve to disturb their composure. Despite being totally convinced they would never abandon me for having different beliefs, I just didn't want to upset them. I'm not saying that's the conclusion everyone should reach, but it was my particular calculus.
As it turned out, there was literally no one in my family I felt I had to convince of anything. But I didn't have younger siblings, only older (much older). So the dynamic is a little different. If I had a younger sibling, I might have used up some capital putting freethinking ideas into their head, too.
I just spent a weekend with my two still-living older brothers. One of them is still quite devout in the faith. My thought after that visit was that I could stand it for a couple of days, but would be pretty vexed if I lived nearby and had to interact with him all the time. I would have to have strong boundaries and avoid religious and political topics and just agree to disagree. If he insisted on constant hint-dropping and proselytizing I would have to severely curtail the amount of time we'd spend together.
Bottom line, life is too short (and I'm too old) to be upset all the time, so you either have to choose not to care or avoid the provocations and where you end up with that decision is going to vary by individual personality and family dynamic.
The only thought I can offer is that your family members are responsible for their own beliefs and the consequences of them, and it's probably better on balance to offer opinions or advice only when asked for, and even then, to recognize that some people demand to know truths about what you think or feel that they simply can't handle.
