(December 15, 2019 at 10:07 pm)onlinebiker Wrote:(December 14, 2019 at 11:12 pm)onlinebiker Wrote: I used to be a bouncer in a country/western bar that was owned by a couple in our neighborhood that I went to school with.
During deer hunting season they used to bring in male strippers for the "Whitetail Widows."
Just me, 8 or 9 security guys, a half dozen male strippers, and 400 or so horny women. I would get groped 50 times or more just walking across the bar.
I felt "so violated".
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I miss that place.....
(December 15, 2019 at 9:27 pm)arewethereyet Wrote: I have been seeing some things online lately about not making kids hug relatives, etc. at family gatherings. This is especially a thing during the holidays. Kids should have the right to do so organically and not it be something expected of them. It's a setup for later when people touch without prompting. We have to do a better job of letting kids know that they have the right to decline hugs and kisses from family that may be people they only see once or twice a year. It sets a really bad precedence and takes all power away when it comes to control over their own bodies.So howcome - when women grope a guy (and seriously - I have had it happen) it's responded to with a wink and a smile?
The line regarding unwelcome touching is often blurry from the start. It's confusing and difficult to navigate.
Never mind that we like it.....
Aren't we guys victims??
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Twisted, ain' t it?
Yes, I’ve seen it too.
And I also consider that to be secual assault. But I’ve seen different reactions.
Some guys enjoy it and encourage it. Few women do. Flirting a bit isn’t an open invitation to grope.
When a guy is groped and speaks out about it, I’ve seen his friend give him shit about not being a man.
Playing Cluedo with my mum while I was at Uni:
"You did WHAT? With WHO? WHERE???"
