(July 28, 2020 at 2:00 pm)Rhizomorph13 Wrote: I feel I should leave FB but I have so many memories captured on the site in images. It is a great way to keep in touch with family members but, as has been pointed out by LFC, it is a dumpster fire mush of the time!
Why didn't it facilitate closeness like I was hoping?
It provides such an easy way to connect with people you would think that more connection would happen. I used to throw parties and I would get little response and then almost everyone I invited showed up! Or, the other thing where a couple people respond and even they fail to show adface:.
It is just so weird to me how seemingly difficult it is to maintain human contact without some other driving force like employment. I've had work friends and we do things together outside of work but we lose touch once we no longer work together. This same thing happened with Church and is why I've though about hosting a similar churchlike thing for atheists.
I speculate that the reason closeness is lacking is because the distance people lay between their offline personas and the obviously carefully curated online personas makes it automatically difficult to parse the two personas together. Really, it strikes me as a travesty of a "social" life that the stories people signal on social media sites like Facebook. I should know, I use Facebook mostly for posting pictures of sceneries from walks that I want to view again later or just remember by. I don't care about pictures of what people had for dinner, I mean, what the actual fuck do I care what you had for dinner? Does it come with a recipe, so it at least has some possible use?
"The first principle is that you must not fool yourself — and you are the easiest person to fool." - Richard P. Feynman