being a hateful person

[thesummerqueen]

Best thing you can do is remind your girlfriend that no matter what her parents say, she is a good person. Even without her parents putting a religious spin on it, it would be traumatizing. I know, because I spent years listening to my dad tell me what shit I was and my mother not being capable of deciding whether I was awesome (because I was different and so much like her grandmother) or awful (because she equated me, the eldest, with her older sister, who is an unparalleled piece of work).

For the record, I'm fucking awesome.

It sucks when your parents do shit like this, because out of everyone in the world we feel we ought to be able to depend on our parents for support and guidance and love. It's not true, unfortunately.

Just keep making sure she's aware that she's a strong and good person, that you're there for her, and I'd advise her to unfriend her mother.

My mom is finally getting to the point where she wants me around (even though we don't have much to talk about) and even she knows better than to friend me on FB. It's never a good idea.