RE: Random Thoughts
February 16, 2022 at 8:04 am
(This post was last modified: February 16, 2022 at 8:06 am by zwanzig.)
Having a bit of an internal fight whenever I see anything about being grateful or needing to be grateful in the face of struggles and adversity. On one hand, I understand that gratitude can help you shift your perspective out of a depressive spiral. But I've also been in the situation where things are falling apart, everything is shit, and the advice "be grateful for the things that are not shit(inconsequential things or the basic necessities or dependable constants in my life, while the shit things are often huge and detrimental to the structure of my life)" makes me feel like I'm going crazy, like I don't have a right to feel genuinely upset about the things that are going wrong.
So, I understand the utility of your one-size fits all, petty feel good advice. But it makes me knee-jerk desire to comment that telling someone that their feeling bad about stuff that is difficult to deal with in their life means "you're not being grateful enough about the shit you have left" sounds extortive and abusive.
So, I understand the utility of your one-size fits all, petty feel good advice. But it makes me knee-jerk desire to comment that telling someone that their feeling bad about stuff that is difficult to deal with in their life means "you're not being grateful enough about the shit you have left" sounds extortive and abusive.
