Standing up to family for what you believe in

[arewethereyet]

For what it's worth, I attended my dad's memorial service Saturday. He was 85 when he died, and very Pentecostal. The service was very Pentecostal, but it's what he would have wanted. Probably even the homophobic story one of the preachers threw in the middle...the relevance was that my dad had a bad accident and came back to Jesus, and the speaker's brother was 'a queen' and had a bad accident and came back to Jesus. He called on everyone who wasn't saved to get saved, but at least there wasn't an 'altar call'. I sang along with a couple of the gospel songs I still knew. I bowed my head and closed my eyes when they prayed. Then they fed us. I enjoyed seeing family.

So I participated when I felt like it, and was respectful when I didn't. YMMV.

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your father.  That's a tough one.

My dad wanted nothing as far as a funeral or memorial service so we got together with his buddies at the VFA club where he hung out and told stories and many had drinks.  He may have wanted nothing but this seemed quite fitting to us.  It was nice to meet the guys who became his friends after his move from IA to NC as they were also the ones who helped him out in numerous ways in the last years of his life.

It truly was for the living and was a good day.