I am in love with a wonderful lady. She and I were friends from 2019 and wrote stories together. Now we're dating, since June this year. She is my best friend and I am nuts about her.
Everything is perfect and we are pretty evenly matched. I plan on visiting her in the next year when I can gather up the funds.
She has seemed pretty level headed and is very queer friendly and sexually open. But tonight, she revealed to me that she messed with Ouija boards and "other stuff" as a teenager and she believes something attached to her. It gave her intrusive thoughts and her "roughest times" until her family moved out of that house. But she still believes that her occasionally negative internal self talk comes from something other than her, to this day. And she told me this with some wariness, I guess anticipating me being spooked or something (she knows I'm an atheist and ex-Mormon, we've talked about it before). I comforted her about her experience, trying not to say anything directly about the "whatever" it is she thinks is in her thoughts from the cardboard alphabet game board.
Annnnd that tone? ^^^^ Yeah? How do I let her know that I don't believe in spiritual crap without making her feel like shit? Like, if I say right out, "I don't believe in that sorta thing" right after she's told me this personal story, it will be invalidating to her and make her feel like I am saying she is crazy or making it up. So how do you frame it to be not like a jerk? Her tone about it was offputting, like she might scare me away. I don't think she's crazy for believing her negative self talk is Satan or whatever. It's a common, emotional storytelling; i used to do it too back when I believed. I just want to frame it without my natural atheist condescension and bitterness and impatience coming out. Give me sensitive secular humanist words, please.
Edit: also, hi.
Everything is perfect and we are pretty evenly matched. I plan on visiting her in the next year when I can gather up the funds.
She has seemed pretty level headed and is very queer friendly and sexually open. But tonight, she revealed to me that she messed with Ouija boards and "other stuff" as a teenager and she believes something attached to her. It gave her intrusive thoughts and her "roughest times" until her family moved out of that house. But she still believes that her occasionally negative internal self talk comes from something other than her, to this day. And she told me this with some wariness, I guess anticipating me being spooked or something (she knows I'm an atheist and ex-Mormon, we've talked about it before). I comforted her about her experience, trying not to say anything directly about the "whatever" it is she thinks is in her thoughts from the cardboard alphabet game board.
Annnnd that tone? ^^^^ Yeah? How do I let her know that I don't believe in spiritual crap without making her feel like shit? Like, if I say right out, "I don't believe in that sorta thing" right after she's told me this personal story, it will be invalidating to her and make her feel like I am saying she is crazy or making it up. So how do you frame it to be not like a jerk? Her tone about it was offputting, like she might scare me away. I don't think she's crazy for believing her negative self talk is Satan or whatever. It's a common, emotional storytelling; i used to do it too back when I believed. I just want to frame it without my natural atheist condescension and bitterness and impatience coming out. Give me sensitive secular humanist words, please.
Edit: also, hi.
