So the Black Christian women are discovering that the church tricked them into staying unmarried so that they can be exploited?
Quote:Christian women spend years praying and waiting for husbands who may never come. Is the Church to blame?
Single Christian women who want to be married to a fellow believer are being put in an impossible position. Many are told to wait and pray, but statistically speaking, when it comes to finding lasting love, they’re at a significant disadvantage.
In 2020, a book was written called Black Single Christian featuring 13 different contributors. One of the writers said that she’s angry at the Black Church because the Church sold them a lie.
The lie was that if you become the Proverbs 31 wife, keep yourself pure, pray, fast, stay in church, don’t get involved with anybody outside the church, then your Boaz will come along. This writer was now in their late 50s - no Boaz, no husband, no children. Yet their friends who left the church got married and had kids.
The writer said she was angry at the Church for failing to provide sufficient men for them to get married, because the ratio of men to women, especially amongst the Afro-Caribbean churches, is seven women to one man. The Church should have done more to get more men in, and, importantly, to empower the men so that they can be suitable husbands. Because even the few men that are in Church are not marriage material - financially, emotionally or spiritually.
The author had posted their book extract on Facebook, and it resulted in a big debate. There was a controversial US psychologist in the comments arguing that keeping Black women single is a deliberate decision, because it serves the purpose of the church. Black women are more educated than Black men. They earn more money and they’ve got more time and resources for the church when they’re single. Once they get married, they have less time and resources. So the church intentionally keeps itself feminine and does not attract men, because they want to keep women single. I’m like, hang on a minute! Is the church really somehow responsible for this?
It’s from that I wrote a play "Why Didn’t I Get Married?" which asks if we should hold the church responsible for the high levels of singleness. The play is a courtroom drama where we are asking the questions and putting all of the arguments out there.
https://www.premierchristianity.com/inte...11.article
teachings of the Bible are so muddled and self-contradictory that it was possible for Christians to happily burn heretics alive for five long centuries. It was even possible for the most venerated patriarchs of the Church, like St. Augustine and St. Thomas Aquinas, to conclude that heretics should be tortured (Augustine) or killed outright (Aquinas). Martin Luther and John Calvin advocated the wholesale murder of heretics, apostates, Jews, and witches. - Sam Harris, "Letter To A Christian Nation"
