RE: Help with a Christian girlfriend
January 7, 2012 at 3:11 pm
(This post was last modified: January 7, 2012 at 3:14 pm by 5thHorseman.)
(January 7, 2012 at 12:55 pm)Danvelope223 Wrote: Hi - I decided to make an account/post this because I've been having some serious conflicts of belief, and needed somewhere to express my problems. Now I met my current Girlfriend a while ago, and while I always knew she was religious, I didn't realize quite how strong her convictions were - she comes from a very traditional family and church - no homosexuals - no sex before marriage or divorce - no alcohol - the whole shebang really. But whenever I ask her about these beliefs, and why she believes as she does she states that 'it's because it's been drilled into her for such a long time'. Now I don't know if this is because she is unwilling to talk about her beliefs, or she's embarrassed or what it is. I'm not trying to convert her to atheism, I simply want to understand why she continues to believe these things if it really is because they've been 'drilled into her'. I love her dearly but it's getting harder and harder to put aside said beliefs and I really don't know what to do anymore. any help/opinions would be greatly appreciated!
I love that one. Every family has a secret homosexual, they just don't out themselves so as to avoid a backlash.
I think there is no reason to question her beliefs, as long as said beliefs do not come between you, there should not be any problems.
(January 7, 2012 at 1:45 pm)Faith No More Wrote: Sometimes I ask my wife(Catholic) why she believes in god and stuff, but she refuses to talk to me about it on the grounds that I am very condescending during such discussions. I can't help it though, and I don't do it on purpose. I just think it's silly and it somehow comes out when I speak. Anyways...
It's quite difficult to not be consescending to someone who believes in the trinity or their other obvious bullshit.
Sometimes for the sake of relationships you have to let your partner believe what they want, and teach yourself to not care about the foundations of said beliefs. Now if you want to change her beliefs, such as the one on homosexuality, you will have to talk about it. My way of addressing my wife's beliefs is to just throw in a comment here and there, making sure that it is not condescending or insulting. I don't try to start a discussion, just merely plant a seed of thought.
I would try doing that several times, and then maybe try extending those thoughts into a couple of lines of discussion, slowly letting them evolve into a full conversation.
Don't know if that will work all that well, but's the best advice I've got.
