RE: Why Have Men Escaped Slut-Shaming?
March 10, 2012 at 10:16 am
(This post was last modified: March 10, 2012 at 10:18 am by The Grand Nudger.)
(March 9, 2012 at 3:48 pm)Wildurr Wrote: I think Clinton got the bad wrap for his fling because he was married to another woman. I think single guys are encouraged to sleep around (and virgin-shamed if they haven't yet) while single women are labeled as bad "relationship" material if they have casual sex.
My opinion?
Before hormonal birth control and paternity tests, men only had to provide for the babies their wives had. Therfore, "smart men" would ideally marry a woman who either has a low sex drive in general or who is extremely picky in who she has sex with so the husband wouldn't end up a cuckold and raising children that didn't share his genes.
At the same time, men who slept with women they weren't married to effectively could avoid the burdens of providing for a child - leaving the women to care for the child by themself - which was practically impossible to do without the ability to work.
Therefore, it was in women's best social interest to remain chaste and put all of her sexual energy towards her husband - the one who would be providing for the care of her children. That is why we still have men who prefer "non-slut" wives and why women often label other women they don't like as a "slut" - it's a carry-over from an age where that reputation would make men hesitate to marry her - therefore dooming her to a life of loneliness (or prostitution).
That would be a strange one, birth control methods have been practiced longer than marriage, many cultures even up to first contact didn't have any such convention (or their analog would be unrecognizable to us). As far as we can tell women have been the primary caregiver for a very long time. Marriage itself is just a cultural expression of "heir security". Smart men would shaft anything that moved for the majority of our history (and still do). "The ability to work" has only meant something since "work" meant something, a flash in the pan with regards to our time here. Marriage is actually a flash in the pan with regards to "work" as well. Marriage was once a convention of the moneyed few. Kings, queens, dukes and duchesses married, common people lived together and screwed.
Find me a man who prefers a "non-slut" wife. Sure, he may not want his wife walking the trapeze with a road cone up her ass and two electrodes attached to her nipples with another man, but in his bedroom, a-okay. The trouble with explaining something like this by reference to our culture is that many times these behaviours are much older than our culture.
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