There's advice I would like to give you, however I'm not sure you would understand and I don't want to get in trouble for preaching.
I do know this, you should leave home, having your own place will help you have some stability, do not let your family in this space, it's your world, where you can deal with you and have some peace and get rested. No drugs or alcohol, they can easily become crutches and this makes them a useless coping mechanism. A private place is your friend, but do not make it your life.
As for your family, this is the toughest part, deal with your brother by talking to him one on one, tell him how you feel about the situation and especially the children, let him deal with his wife that's for him to do. Offer help with the children, but do not council them, your not a psychologist. Talk with Mom and Dad about whatever is bothering you, do this at their place or neutral ground, let no one in your family invade your home, if you do that sanctuary will be gone, protect it, it is your safe place. Most of all do not let them control your life and do not give up on them, they are your family.
I do know this, you should leave home, having your own place will help you have some stability, do not let your family in this space, it's your world, where you can deal with you and have some peace and get rested. No drugs or alcohol, they can easily become crutches and this makes them a useless coping mechanism. A private place is your friend, but do not make it your life.
As for your family, this is the toughest part, deal with your brother by talking to him one on one, tell him how you feel about the situation and especially the children, let him deal with his wife that's for him to do. Offer help with the children, but do not council them, your not a psychologist. Talk with Mom and Dad about whatever is bothering you, do this at their place or neutral ground, let no one in your family invade your home, if you do that sanctuary will be gone, protect it, it is your safe place. Most of all do not let them control your life and do not give up on them, they are your family.
God loves those who believe and those who do not and the same goes for me, you have no choice in this matter. That puts the matter of total free will to rest.
