When I was younger I was very religious and very "conservative". I was going to wait until marriage to have sex, I was not going to drink any alcohol, and I certainly was not going to try any illegal drugs.
Well I am older now, and I'm not religious anymore. I'm not a virgin, I drink alcohol, and when I was younger I actually did try marijuana -- I just don't take it now because it could jeopardize my job.
Do I regret loosing my virginity before marriage? To be honest, no. It made me feel more human, more alive, and more comfortable with women and sex in general. But still I have been lucky that I have not gotten any of the women pregnant that I slept with. I haven't always used a condom, and the women were not all on birth control. If I had gotten one or more of the women pregnant than my view would probably be different. There would be the emotional dilemma to deal with if she got an abortion, and there would be the financial problem to deal with if she had the baby and wanted child support. Or the huge responsibility that I would have had to assume if I chose to raise the child instead. So I would hesitate to recommend even following my example. I've known girls who decided to start having sex -- and they swore that they would always have "safe" sex -- but they ended up pregnant.
And when it comes to alcohol and drugs, people often do end up with problems..
So I would be afraid to preach in either direction. Any thoughts any feelings?
Well I am older now, and I'm not religious anymore. I'm not a virgin, I drink alcohol, and when I was younger I actually did try marijuana -- I just don't take it now because it could jeopardize my job.
Do I regret loosing my virginity before marriage? To be honest, no. It made me feel more human, more alive, and more comfortable with women and sex in general. But still I have been lucky that I have not gotten any of the women pregnant that I slept with. I haven't always used a condom, and the women were not all on birth control. If I had gotten one or more of the women pregnant than my view would probably be different. There would be the emotional dilemma to deal with if she got an abortion, and there would be the financial problem to deal with if she had the baby and wanted child support. Or the huge responsibility that I would have had to assume if I chose to raise the child instead. So I would hesitate to recommend even following my example. I've known girls who decided to start having sex -- and they swore that they would always have "safe" sex -- but they ended up pregnant.
And when it comes to alcohol and drugs, people often do end up with problems..
So I would be afraid to preach in either direction. Any thoughts any feelings?
