Theists: what does your god want for you?

[Ryantology]

God doesn't endorse any of that. Read Proverbs 31 or the epistles about submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.

I must have imagined Deuteronomy 22:28.

You are condensing a very complicated and somewhat contradictory serious of teachings that span from war to peace and different historical periods into a single statement.

"Let me tell you how it doesn't actually mean that God thinks of women as men's property when he tells them the going rate for virginal rape victims in the marriage slavery trade."

God is always for women, not everything that God permits is necessarily agreeable to modern culture, that does not give people an accuse to not try to understand it in the cultural context it is in (e.g. if God did not permit the taking of concubines, the women would have just been killed).

No, I take cultural context into careful consideration, especially since this depicts a (fictional) moment which came to define Jewish culture: it was a culture which looked down upon women as property and had no moral qualms with rape. Of course, for the most part, that is not a problem of cultural context. Elements of modern Christianity does not have a much more advanced attitude towards women, for which conservative politics paid dearly in America last year.