(April 1, 2013 at 7:19 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: Not that I'm telling you what to do, because that's entirely up to what you feel is right, but I just want to give you a piece of perspective:
Sex is usually pretty important in relationships, and if you're not getting what you want sexually it can fuck up more than just bedroom sports. I'm not talking about animal desires only - to me sex is a very deep way of establishing intimacy and bonding...even if you're just having sex with a friend-with-benefits.
As such, "saving for marriage" is a crapshoot. You don't know if you're going to like what that person does or not.
Not saying that things can't change if you're both honest and willing to work on it. And not saying a relationship can't work if some large component is missing. But it's a big factor most of the time. More than a lot of people who were formerly or are still religious realize.
Thanks for the perspective.
