(June 24, 2013 at 12:39 am)Maelstrom Wrote:(June 24, 2013 at 12:26 am)Drich Wrote: I set a very specific set of parameters in play. One where a family man wakes up one day and realizes he has been gay all of his life, but has made a commitment to a wife and kids.
As important as it is to keep one's commitments, it is unrealistic to expect some people to keep their commitments under certain circumstances. Of course, each family should decide how to best handle the situation for their best interests.
There is nothing wrong with the man divorcing his wife so that he can seek happiness elsewhere. After all, if he remains trapped in the marriage, both he and his wife, and the children as a result, will all be unhappy.
Happiness must come first, because love cannot possibly survive without the foundation of happiness to support it. As much as religious people like to pretend at reality with faith, faking happiness is just as detrimental in the long run.
When did 'happiness' become the primary goal of marriage?
Marriage is about Love. Not just eros or the emotion of love but of Agape, Phila, and Storge. For if we choose to love (phila) the other forms will follow, and will step in when one form or another fails.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greek_words_for_love
Meaning Real love, Die for your family in the most horrid way possiable without giving it a second thought love is not based on happiness or completely on eros. For both of those can come and go like the tides. Mature love looks beyond the passion looks beyond the way you feel, looks well beyond self to the well being of everyone under your charge, despite what you may feel in the moment.
If we all followed how we feel Most marriages wouldn't last too far beyond the honey moon.
