do u think people think im lame for not having a gf?

[thesummerqueen]

It makes sense to me, and that's all that matters. I think you have to recognize your personality traits and stop living to make other people happy or to simply make yourself more interesting to other people.

Having interests and knowledge and passions automatically makes you a more interesting person to other people - trying to make yourself interesting in any other fashion is almost immediately perceived correctly as being shallow. The only reason I would disagree with your statement is when questions like the OP's come up. If you want people to like you and find you to be interesting, you have to BE interesting, and you can't be interesting if you don't have real interests and things to geek out on.

Personally, I just want to kiss my boyfriend to death when he does his little geeking out sessions. He gets so excited over new tech and how it works, or bitcoin and that whole deal, or the Singularity, or things he's building or programming, that he seems almost incandescent. Who wouldn't be attracted to that?

OP, you'll kill two birds with one stone if you stop worrying what other people are probably not actually thinking about you and devoted all your mental attention towards things that you really love. You'll be happier for playing with your passions, you'll stop giving a fuck what other people think (which matters little in the cosmic sphere of things) and you'll develop traits that people find attractive so that you can bag a decent girl.