(November 20, 2013 at 2:08 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:(November 20, 2013 at 1:28 pm)Clueless Morgan Wrote: It makes sense to me, and that's all that matters. I think you have to recognize your personality traits and stop living to make other people happy or to simply make yourself more interesting to other people.
Having interests and knowledge and passions automatically makes you a more interesting person to other people - trying to make yourself interesting in any other fashion is almost immediately perceived correctly as being shallow. The only reason I would disagree with your statement is when questions like the OP's come up. If you want people to like you and find you to be interesting, you have to BE interesting, and you can't be interesting if you don't have real interests and things to geek out on.
Fair point, and I agree: If you want people to like you you tend to go out of your way to do things you think will make that person or those people like you. I've done that for sure, and I'm willing to bet that at some point most people have.
The only caveat I would add is if you are doing things to make yourself more interesting or so that people will like you but the outcome of that is that you remain or become unhappy with your life or situation as a result of these actions, a reevaluation is in order, and maybe some therapy.
Perhaps, generally, when you find yourself really wanting something (like a girlfriend or boyfriend or acceptance by a peer group or some other desire) you should stop and evaluate your reasons for wanting that thing and what you expect to gain or lose as a result of getting it or not getting it, sort of like what Jacob(smooth) is asking of the OP.
Teenaged X-Files obsession + Bermuda Triangle episode + Self-led school research project = Atheist.
