Women reclaiming the word SLUT

[Kiko]

Slut is a bit negative because it's a lifestyle choice which can be dangerous because of STD's and unwanted pregnancies.

I don't know, I don't think that when a man calls a woman a slut, or even when a woman calls another woman a slut, I don't think it really has anything to do with STDs and such. I think it's more to do with the fact that promiscuous women are seen as less worthy as a potential partner (as opposed to worthy as a person - I don't that's the implication at all), the implication being that she loses a certain innocence or something like that, and that being promiscuous, for a woman at least, is seen as decreasing the likelihood of her being loyal. I read somewhere that a woman's ability to bond is closely linked to sex, as opposed to men, who can have sex with loads of people and not be affected in the same way. I think oxytocin has something to do with it, or so I read.

But either way, even if being promiscuous (a slut) does lessen a woman's ability to bond, and even it does lessen her ability to be loyal, and even if she does lose a certain innocence, I can't understand how that's any reason to see her as not being a good potential long term partner and that's why the word ought to be reclaimed, to make the point that women can make the same lifestyle choices as men without having to face being shamed for it.

Maybe it's all just human nature, or maybe it's gender norms (whether or not those norms arise as a result of human nature), but there are clearly biases which need to be challenged. I do realize that animals have certain set male / female behaviours which are beneficial to their species as a whole, but we're a step above animals, and we have the ability and the right to make whatever lifestyle choices we want, and to make mistakes too.