Friends trying to 'save' me

[OGirly]

Use the word 'boundary.'

For years my mom used to try to get me to go to church with them on special occasions. She would try to guilt trip me, saying 'come to be with family' or 'I just want to be with you while you are in town.' Stuff like that. Finally, I told her that it was a boundary I will not cross. If she would like to continue to cross that boundary, that's up to her.

Most people are averse to crossing boundaries that are clearly defined.

I'll try this! Hopefully wording it more forcefully will be enough.

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My advice, don't go to appease her if that is the only reason. She needs to respect where you are, with this whole thing. If she doesn't judge, let's see that play out in actions. I lost three friends, one very recently, over 'leaving' the faith. The last one hurt the most, as it was a bit abrupt. She might have been feeling things she never said for a while, but never said anything until recently. It hurts to lose people you considered friends, but you can't be someone you are not, to keep them.

Old saying, one should rather be hated for who he/she is, than liked for who he/she is not.

It is a hard spot, OGirly. I hope your friendships last, and that your friends respect your boundaries. hugs~*~

Sigh...it's a sticky spot to be in :\ Sorry to hear about your lost friends. It's never easy when you have to accept someone is not going to be a part of your life anymore. I really hope it doesn't come to that for me, but who knows anymore. People get so caught up in religion :\

Thanks for the consolation though. It's at least comforting to know there are others with similar experiences.