Have you ever been so offended?

[Ben Davis]

Well I wish they would care. I feel like I've been through enough without some cold hearted "well meaning" person to tell me that everything I've been through, what my kids have been through is my fault. Someone else hurt me physically, sexually, and emotionally while I spent my time praying for answers, while I spent my time clinging to my abuser trying to learn to be better for him, why should other people get to tell me that's my fault? I played their game the best I could, and then I decided I loved my kids too much to allow any further abuse. So I quit. I no longer seek them out for advice. I just want to be left in peace.

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Well thanks for listening to me complain. Maybe I will go to bed now haha.

The scariest, most worrying thing is that she clearly didn't see that her insistence that you 'try harder to be a good woman for god' was the same type of abuse that you were escaping from. That sort of empathy fail would probably never get forgiveness from me.